"Almost all of us have childhood dreams; for example, being an astronaut, or making movies or video games for a living. Sadly, most people don’t achieve theirs, and I think that’s a shame. I had several specific childhood dreams, and I’ve actually achieved most of them.  More importantly, I have found ways, in particular the creation (with Don Marinelli), of CMU’s Entertainment Technology Center of helping many young people actually *achieve* their childhood dreams." - Randy Pausch, Oct. 23, 1960 - July 25, 2008

Here is the book by Randy Pausch, I have very little to add. Watch it, read it, be grateful, achieve your childhood dreams...

Courtesy of Orin Optiglot

It’s all about choice…

When I came to realization that every thing in our life based on choices I turned 34 years old. Literally, when you wake up in a morning you have a choice to have a good mood or bad mood. When you find out that your shirt that you love most of all is not ironed – you have a choice to get upset and screw every one’s day around you or just make note to your wife “yeah it would be great to have this shirt for the next time”. On your way to work some jerk just cut you off on the highway, you still have choice to get upset, chase the guy and signal as loud as you can, show the finger and so on, and by the way it comes with the package it’s a real risk for your life to drive like that, or you just can think “ah what to hell, this moron not going to ruin my day, here is a good CD I want to listen”. Choices it’s a perpetual process, it’s so deep in us that some times we are even don’t realize that we are in constant process of choosing things.

Recently I came across "14 Rules Kids Won't Learn in School" list. Originally the list was in a book of Charles J. Sykes named “Dumbing Down Our Kids: Why American Children Feel Good About Themselves But Can't Read, Write, or Add”. But the idea was so successful that he published later another book called "50 Rules Kids Won't Learn in School: Real-World Antidotes to Feel-Good Education". Being a parent of teen-ager I find this is a great advice. Especially because almost everyone I know (including me) could probably use them from time to time.

Here is a list:

Rule # 1: Life is not fair. Get used to it. The average teen-ager uses the phrase "It's not fair" 8.6 times a day. You got it from your parents, who said it so often you decided they must be the most idealistic generation ever. When they started hearing it from their own kids, they realized Rule # 1.

Rule # 2: The real world won't care as much about your self-esteem as much as your school does. It'll expect you to accomplish something before you feel good about yourself. This may come as a shock. Usually, when inflated self-esteem meets reality, kids complain that it's not fair. (See Rule # 1)

Rule # 3: Sorry, you won't make $40,000 a year right out of high school. And you won't be a vice president or have a car phone either. You may even have to wear a uniform that doesn't have a Gap label.

Rule # 4: If you think your teacher is tough, wait 'til you get a boss. He doesn't have tenure, so he tends to be a bit edgier. When you screw up, he's not going to ask you how you feel about it.

Rule # 5: Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your grandparents had a different word for burger flipping. They called it opportunity. They weren't embarrassed making minimum wage either. They would have been embarrassed to sit around talking about Kurt Cobain all weekend.

Rule # 6: It's not your parents' fault. If you screw up, you are responsible. This is the flip side of "It's my life," and "You're not the boss of me," and other eloquent proclamations of your generation. When you turn 18, it's on your dime. Don't whine about it, or you'll sound like a baby boomer.

Rule # 7: Before you were born your parents weren't as boring as they are now. They got that way paying your bills, cleaning up your room and listening to you tell them how idealistic you are. And by the way, before you save the rain forest from the blood-sucking parasites of your parents' generation, try delousing the closet in your bedroom.

Rule # 8: Your school may have done away with winners and losers. Life hasn't. In some schools, they'll give you as many times as you want to get the right answer. Failing grades have been abolished and class valedictorians scrapped, lest anyone's feelings be hurt. Effort is as important as results. This, of course, bears not the slightest resemblance to anything in real life. (See Rule # 1, Rule # 2 and Rule # 4.)

Rule # 9: Life is not divided into semesters, and you don't get summers off. Not even Easter break. They expect you to show up every day. For eight hours. And you don't get a new life every 10 weeks. It just goes on and on. While we're at it, very few jobs are interested in fostering your self-expression or helping you find yourself. Fewer still lead to self-realization. (See Rule # 1 and Rule # 2.)

Rule # 10: Television is not real life. Your life is not a sitcom. Your problems will not all be solved in 30 minutes, minus time for commercials. In real life, people actually have to leave the coffee shop to go to jobs. Your friends will not be as perky or pliable as Jennifer Aniston.

Rule # 11: Be nice to nerds. You may end up working for them. We all could.

Rule # 12: Smoking does not make you look cool. It makes you look moronic. Next time you're out cruising, watch an 11-year-old with a butt in his mouth. That's what you look like to anyone over 20. Ditto for "expressing yourself" with purple hair and/or pierced body parts.

Rule # 13: You are not immortal. (See Rule # 12.) If you are under the impression that living fast, dying young and leaving a beautiful corpse is romantic, you obviously haven't seen one of your peers at room temperature lately.

Rule # 14: Enjoy this while you can. Sure parents are a pain, school's a bother, and life is depressing. But someday you'll realize how wonderful it was to be a kid. Maybe you should start now. You're welcome.

What your life experience is?